NEGATIVE THOUGHTS OR REACTIONS

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Name _____________________________________ Date ___________________________

Put a check-mark next to those statements that sometimes are problems for you. We’ll review these to understand how and when they can be problems to you. This should be a quick response and take only a few minutes.

1. When disagreements come up, people usually end up getting hostile.
2. Don't do anything to embarrass the family.
3. Success equals how good you are at doing things.
4. Mistakes are not to be tolerated.
5. When upset, I usually don't say much.
6. Yelling is how I handle frustration or anger.
7. Receiving approval is impossible to predict.
8. There is always something close-by that threatens safety.
9. My opinions don't count.
10. Why try, life can never change or be better.
11. No one is ever to be trusted or counted on.
12. Having or showing feelings, especially certain ones, is unacceptable.
13. My thoughts and feelings prove whether something is real or true.
14. Good things in life never last.
15. Being irresponsible is never acceptable.
16. Always being completely responsible is the way to live.
17. Being productive at all times is essential.
18. The very existence of injustice cannot be tolerated.
19. Being honest with others usually produces rejection.
20. I must always control my situation completely.
21. I am not allowed to please myself, only others.
22. I am totally alone.
23. I do not need anyone.
24. It is not worth risking being rejected.
25. Love comes from measuring up to some standard.
26. I must never be alone.
27. I must never let people see the real me.
28. Sometimes people need to get even.
29. I will change only when someone else does.
30. Doing something is only right if it feels comfortable.
31. Others should just know what I need.
32. I am responsible for the happiness, feelings of others.
33. Submitting to or being influenced by others is a sign of weakness.
34. There must be no uncertainties in life.
35. Showing weakness is unacceptable.
36. I feel good about myself only when I am doing for others.

RESPONSIBILITY

37. I don’t deserve love
38. I am a bad person
39. I am terrible
40. I am worthless (inadequate)
41. I am shameful
42. I am not lovable
43. I am not good enough
44. I deserve only bad things
45. I am ugly (my body is hateful)
46. I do not deserve…………
47. I am stupid (not smart enough)
48. I am insignificant (unimportant)
49. I am a disappointment
50. I deserve to die
51. I deserve to be miserable
52. I am different (don’t belong)
53. I should have done something (about what happened to me)
54. I did something wrong (about what happened to me)
55. I should have known better.

SAFETY/VULNERABILITY

56. I am untrustworthy
57. I can’t trust myself
58. I can’t trust my judgment
59. I cant trust anyone
60. I can’t protect myself
61. I am in danger
62. It’s not okay to feel (show) my emotions
63. I can’t stand up for myself
64. I cannot “let it out”

CONTROL/CHOICE

65. I am not in control
66. I am powerless (helpless
67. I am weak
68. I cannot get what I want
69. I am a failure (will fail)
70. I cannot succeed
71. I have to be perfect
72. I cannot stand it
73. I am inadequate
74. I cannot trust anyone